Stop
Second-Guessing
The step-by-step method to close the loop and feel settled on a choice.
Without needing to feel 100% sure or never being able to “change your mind” again.
Commitment + Support = Results
You made the decision.
And instead of feeling relieved… your brain opened a brand-new tab called:
“WAIT. DID I JUST RUIN MY LIFE?”
If that’s you, I’m going to say something that might land like a tiny emotional slap (with love):
These aren’t your only options.
You shouldn’t have to “prove you chose right” in order to feel okay.
You shouldn’t have to panic until you find enough evidence to relax.
You shouldn’t have to treat every decision like it’s a trap you’re stuck in forever if it isn’t perfect.
What should be happening instead?
You should be able to make a decision… feel the normal wobble… and still move forward with confidence.
Because second-guessing isn’t proof you chose wrong.
It’s usually just your brain failing to “close the loop.”
And no one ever taught you how.
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You’ve been taught the exact thing that makes post-decision panic worse.
Because when you start doubting yourself after a decision, the advice you’ll hear is:
“Just think it through more.”
Because when you start doubting yourself after a decision, the advice you’ll hear is:
“Get more reassurance.”
Because when you start doubting yourself after a decision, the advice you’ll hear is:
“You just have to live with the consequences if it’s wrong.”
Because when you start doubting yourself after a decision, the advice you’ll hear is:
BOLD INSPIRING STUFF
Let’s make it easier
I’m on a mission to help smart, capable people stop paying the post-decision tax.
Not by forcing yourself to “get over it.”
Not by pretending you don’t care.
Not by doing more thinking until you feel certain.
But by learning one simple skill:
How to close the loop after you decide.
That’s why I created Stop Second-Guessing Your Choice — a short, focused mini-workshop that helps you get out of post-decision panic and move forward with confidence.
Real-life Help Only, Please:
If you’ve made a choice and now you’re spiraling, this teaches you how to:
calm the “what if I messed up?” response without needing proof you chose perfectly
tell the difference between a real red flag vs. normal discomfort after a decision
stop treating uncertainty like an emergency
stand by the decision you made (without white-knuckling it)
stay flexible without using “I can always change my mind” as a backdoor into endless doubt
Translation: you’ll stop reopening the case.
Not because you became a different person.
Because you finally learned what to do after a decision is made.
MAKE THE CHOICE AND MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE
You were taught the exact thing that keeps you stuck.
You’ve been told that if you just think about your decision a little more, you’ll finally feel certain.
And once you feel certain, you’ll feel calm.
That advice sounds responsible.
It’s also the reason you keep re-opening decisions you already made.
Here’s the most common responsible advice when you don’t feel settled after a decision:
“Just keep evaluating it.”
So you:
replay the conversation
re-check the options
re-read the reviews
re-open the spreadsheet (because maybe this time it’ll click)
ask yourself the same question in six slightly different ways
And what does it create?
A brain that doesn’t trust closure.
A nervous system that thinks “done” is unsafe.
A life where the decision is technically made — but you keep paying for it mentally.
And then there’s the classic: “Talk it out with more people.”
So you:
ask your partner
ask your friend
ask your mom
ask the group chat
ask someone on Instagram (honestly)
Which creates a second problem:
Even if you loved your decision at first, now you’re carrying everyone else’s perspective, too.
And your choice starts to feel fragile.
This isn’t how it should be.
You don’t need to feel 100% sure to move on.
You need to learn the post-decision skill nobody teaches:
How to close the loop.
Because the truth is, second-guessing isn’t proof you made the wrong decision.
It’s usually just a habit of rechecking for safety.
And here’s the contrarian part:
The less you “check” your decision, the more confident you become.
Confidence doesn’t come from certainty.
It comes from practicing commitment after the decision is made.
FAQs
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When you sign up for the Clarity Workshop, you get:
>>Instant access to The Clarity Workshop: A 3-part, self-paced online training where you’ll learn how to establish your vision, goals and values
>>The 3 bonuses: The 4 Fear Questions; The Boundaries Walk-through; and The Weekly Prioritization Template.
>>Access to future live, virtual group coaching sessions, in which you can get direct help working through your vision, goals and values
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The investment for The Clarity Workshop is $37, and includes a 30-day, no-questions, money-back guarantee.
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Great! I’d love to tell you everything. Email me at coaching@kirstenparker.com.
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