Your decision-making style is...
The People-Pleaser
But wait! This doesn’t have to be a bad thing. You can get unstuck and make your style work for you.
You have a decision superpower!
You’re tuned in to everyone else’s needs — and that shows up in your choices.
You don’t just think about what you want. You think about what your partner will think, what your boss will think, how your family will feel, who might be upset.
Your decisions become a group project, even when they don’t need to be. And when everyone else’s happiness is on the line, it’s no wonder you hesitate or downplay your own preferences.
At its core, people-pleasing isn’t weakness. It’s your brain’s way of protecting connection and avoiding conflict — and often a long-practiced habit of taking responsibility for too much. But when every choice runs through other people’s filters first, your own clarity and authority get buried in the process.
The good news? Your care for others doesn’t have to come at the expense of yourself. You can honor your compassion while still putting your own clarity and authority back in the mix.
Imagine decisions where you feel good about the outcome and good about how you showed up for yourself. That’s what’s possible for you.
Make the most of your style
When you’re not people-pleasing, you’re making thoughtful, compassionate choices.
You think about people’s food allergies when you make dinner reservations — you send flowers when a friend needs a pick-me-up — you go the extra mile to make people comfortable.
You’re basically a superhero.
And you can stay that way!
When you’re at your best, your Decision Style is really Consciously Considerate.
As long as you use it as a strength and not an obstacle, this can be the reason you feel great about your choices — and the results they create.
To make the most of it, notice when it feels good to be as considerate as you are.
As you notice the thoughtful decisions that are intentional, you’ll start noticing the choices that are happening by default (and more people-pleasey).
You’ll take charge of using your superpower — without neglecting yourself in the process!
The key to making the most of your style is to take charge of it.
Your Solution
CONSIDER YOUR OWN OPINION FIRST
When it comes to ditching that icky-feeling self-neglectful part of your Decision Style, you have to prioritize yourself first.
The truth is, not every decision requires other people’s input or approval.
When you have a decision to make, consider what you think, want & wonder.
And answer this before you check in with anyone else, or think about who might be disappointed, inconvenienced or upset by your decision.
Even if you end up asking around for people’s opinions or accommodating their preferences, you’ll do so with confidence when it’s from an empowered place.
You get to that empowered place by knowing you’ve considered your own thoughts and feelings first.
The more comfortable you get with considering your own authentic desires, the more you can make confident decisions that make you happy — and other people, when you consciously choose to!
Decisions get easier when you trust yourself and take charge of your process.
Ready for help ?
If you want to fast-track easier everyday decisions, here’s what I suggest:
This on-demand workshop gives you a simple, practical process to stop overthinking, get clear faster, and feel better about your choices.
You’ll learn a repeatable method to apply to both big and small decisions, building the habits that make decisions easier over time!
